I experienced a very ungracious day yesterday.
People who I expected more of (expectations are a cause of suffering *), were very ungracious, rude and disrespectful to me and others.
Which is a reminder to me to be more gracious in my interactions with others.
When someone pushes your buttons, it’s a message for you.
It’s not them, it’s you.
Why is their behaviour bringing to the surface an uncomfortable feeling?
If you are truly balanced, centred, grounded and secure in yourself, nothing need upset you.
So when it does, when other people do, then it’s a message for you. It’s an opportunity for you to observe and objectively look at this ungracious and unacceptable offering and muse on what you can evolve and grow in yourself, so if it were to happen again it wouldn’t affect you.
If it were to happen again, you would immediately recognise it for what it is, (ungracious and unacceptable) see it coming, like in a slow-motion movie, floating in the ether towards you, and from this awareness and prior conscious inquiry, calmly call it out and simply let it pass by you. This gives you the opportunity to protect not only yourself from ill-intent but those around you as well.
Nothing is a surprise if you use the expanded time in the present moment and conscious awareness.
Being gracious in an ungracious environment is also your best protection. Ungraciousness cannot land on or stick to the gracious. When ungraciousness has no-where to go or to land, it eventually returns to and clearly highlights those serving it.
Graciously stand in your truth.
Integrate your truth
Cath Sutherland is the Director of Conscious Business – helping businesses to understand who they are, so they can do business better. Cath facilitates teams and leaders through her unique Creating Brand Energy process to develop, through collective consensus, their unique Conscious Business Blueprint – a clear, multi-level guide to manage, direct and develop relationships, operations, and product delivery. Cath can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
* (It is a Buddhist teaching that expectations are a cause of suffering)